Don’t let social media pressure you into thinking that an online relationship automatically makes for a thriving relationship.
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Erwan Heussaff has been cooking, and it’s not just the dishes he makes. Recently, the award-winning chef took to social media to deny rumors that he allegedly cheated on Anne Curtis (and with her sister, no less). On Instagram, he posted pictures of him and Anne with the caption “🏳️Marked safe”. He also took to the comments section to remind everyone to not believe everything you see on Facebook. But he also mentioned something that speaks to what a lot of couples deal with in this day and age. “Anne and I have never really posted much about each other online, it’s just how we are. We don’t feel the need to prove anything to anyone,” he wrote.
In the era of social media, nearly everything can and is recorded and shared online for public consumption. And that has changed dating and relationships a lot these days. After all, are you really a couple if you don’t have an Instagram Highlight dedicated to your partner with a “❤️” caption and post him on your stories? The answer, actually, is still yes because, like with a lot of things online, your relationship status isn’t determined by how it’s perceived on social media.
KEEPING IT LOW-LOW-LOWKEY
With the rise of social media comes a whole host of ways to display love and affection to that special someone. And if you’re the type who finds joy in sharing your bae online, then good for you. We love a proud partner. But that also shouldn’t be the de facto way for a relationship to grow and thrive.
Social media has built this mindset of “if it wasn’t posted online, then it never happened” and that extends to relationships. “Oh, he’s not on the feed or stories? Then they probably aren’t dating,” is probably what some nosy followers might think. However, social media and public perception aren’t what makes for a great relationship. It’s an authentic bond, connection, and chemistry, something an IG carousel can’t fix or give.
There’s nothing wrong if you want to hard launch your partner, but a couple’s worth goes beyond how many pics they posted of each other on their feeds. Not every couple thrives off public reception. Some would rather keep it lowkey to maintain that privacy for a quiet relationship while only sharing their personal moments to a close group of contacts. Others just aren’t the type to constantly post online, and that’s fine. Your private life is private for a reason, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation and announcement on personal developments as not everything should be made public. Soft launching is always an option or even no launch at all.
HAPPY, THRIVING, AND PRIVATE
You can’t stop people from talking and gossiping about your love life, but you can guard your peace and focus on what matters. The noise online can make it feel as if a relationship doesn’t exist if it isn’t shared with your followers. But it is possible to live your best life with your special someone without oversharing what you do together.
There’s no need to extend that chronically online behavior to your time with your partner. Social media is not the arbiter of a successful relationship. And it only gets worse when posts and stories form an image that everything is fine when the real story is anything but. No one wants that. Those likes aren’t going to save your relationship.
At the end of the day, sharing these special moments of your life should not be something you feel pressured to do, but because you genuinely want to. And besides, real friends won’t take offense if you don’t make your relationship status your personality trait online. What matters here is that you communicate with your partner on what works best for both of you and feel most comfortable with. Our lives are already so exposed on social media, so why not keep those few precious moments to yourself? So enjoy life, find love, and prioritize what makes you happy. That IG story can wait.
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