Falling in and out of love is never easy, but we can learn from those experiences, as Maureen Wroblewitz shows us.
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Breakups are never easy. They can often be filled with emotional landmines that may will take a considerable time to process and get through. And with Valentine’s Day just a few weeks away, it will be yet another reminder of a love that perhaps just didn’t work out. But as they say, at the end of the storm is a rainbow, and that is something Maureen Wroblewitz can relate to. In 2022, she and JK Labajo shook social media with the announcement that they were breaking up after years together.
This time around, Maureen Wroblewitz got the internet talking again when she recently uploaded a TikTok of her reacting to Miley Cyrus’ self-love anthem, Flowers. Without singling out a specific person, (in fact, she says it was a cumulation of experience and collective realization), Maureen got real about how love made her change for the worse and that she’s been using the past months to heal from the trauma. It’s a moment of self-reflection that she learned a lot from, and we can too for our own relationships.
TOXIC LOVE CAN TAKE AWAY WHO YOU ARE
Maureen didn’t mince words when she talked about changing for the worse when she used to be in a relationship. “I have sacrificed my beliefs and my values and I did things I didn’t like.” Her experience is a sad reality that many have faced where the feeling of being in love and wanting to please your partner can often overwhelm your core values. The fleeting yet euphoric feeling can often cloud your actions, judgement, and behavior, sometimes leading you down a path that goes against what you believe in. And it goes without saying that it’s often not worth it to go against who you are just to satisfy someone.
GUARD YOURSELF
Even someone like Maureen Wroblewitz isn’t immune to losing their way in life, especially when it comes to relationships. Her past relationship proved to be so toxic that she couldn’t recognize herself anymore. It took her leaving for her to realize what went wrong. “I have lost myself over the past few years and I’m finally realizing who I really am.” It’s a reminder of the importance of watching out for yourself even if you may feel safe with that special someone. At the end of the day, you need to check up on yourself to see if you are still happy and healthy. A relationship is supposed to be beneficial for both parties, not just one.
CHANGING YOURSELF FOR OTHERS IS RARELY WORTH IT
Being in a relationship often requires a lot of physical, emotional, and mental work. But that doesn’t mean you need to downgrade yourself. Morphing who you are just to fit the standards of your partner is not worth it. Your partner should be accepting of who you are as that’s the reason why they fell in love with you in the first place.
Sure, you can work on those traits, but not those that make you you. Maureen said that she wasn’t assertive in her past relationship, which is why she wasn’t able to stand up for herself. It’s only now that she’s taking accountability for her past actions and mending her wrongs. And if your partner won’t accept you for who you are, that’s a red flag right there. Time to move on.
DON’T BE ASHAMED ON FOCUSING ON YOURSELF
Breakups can sometimes include a level of shame given how you weren’t able to make the relationship work. But Maureen Wroblewitz is here to remind you that there’s nothing wrong with that. She has been open about facing past trauma but is also putting in the steps to heal them. “I am working on myself and healing from past trauma because I won’t want to make the same mistakes.” If you, like Maureen, want to cry about it, go ahead. But don’t lock yourself in a negativity spiral. We all make mistakes in life and what matters is that we learn from them.
KNOW YOURSELF BEFORE GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP
Love can make us do a lot of things. But your life is going to be so much better when you realize that it’s a number one priority to know what you want and who you are before committing to be with someone else. That insecurity mixed with the pressures of a relationship is what often leads to a couple’s downfall. As Maureen shares, she was so young when she got into a relationship that she realized only later in her life what she actually wanted in a man. Now, she’s taking stock of the things that she wants for her next relationship. So, before you get swept away in that romance, ask yourself, is it worth it?
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